Eat With Me

Hey Gaysians.

You gotta watch "Eat with Me" on Netflix. Basically, an Asian mom finds out her son is gay. Then what? Well, it's quite fun to watch how she deals with it in modern day society, and who she meets to help her along. 

Good news is, this movie is in English :) No subtitles needed this time.

Quite a cute movie  Eat with Me Trailer

What are YOUR thoughts on the movie?

Wedding Attire = Anxiety

kipper clotheirs tie offered on kickstarter campaign Greyscale Goods

Ok....so I just found this kickstarter campaign called GREYSCALE GOODS with 24 hours left. Great news is that they're already funded, however, this androgynous clothing line started by a woman in Los Angeles and caters to the androgynous female clientele is trying to start a business JUST FOR US!! check it out and support them! I can't wait to see what else they come up with next!

whoa....http://www.dapperq.com/2014/10/personalized-androgynous-clothing-could-be-waiting-on-your-doorstep-if-greyscale-goods-is-backed-on-kickstarter/

AND if you feel like helping out more or just spreading the word...they have a little 5 min survey (only took me 2 min) to help them better their products toward US! 
http://bit.ly/1r1uEbG

kipper clothiers

and for WEDDING ATTIRE related clothing...try these sites :) good luck!

• http://www.gayweddingdestinations.com/information/lesbian-wedding-outfits.aspx
• https://twitter.com/dapperQ 

for that tailored fit..... http://www.kipperclothiers.biz/ ....for women (and men) who exclusively wear men's clothes :) yay!    and wait what? wedding attire advice? No way!

• http://www.soyoureengayged.com/2010/what-to-wear-to-a-wedding-part-two/
• http://sf.racked.com/archives/2014/06/11/custom-wedding-suits-for-women-sf.php

Oh yea..and since Ellen Degeneres has a great sense of style...
http://www.pinterest.com/ellentv/ellens-style/

George Takei

Did you know....
.........................George Takei is coming out ... with his own movie?! 
It's called "To Be Takei" 

If you are interested in Gaysians in the media, he is an out gaysian celebrity and has been for quite some time. It gives the next generation of gaysians hope of finding someone to grow old with, as he has done. He's also got a great sense of humor too! For example...

Twitter post

amusing.
Other Gaysian celebrities, courtesy of a google search 'gay asian celebrities':
http://www.ranker.com/list/list-of-gay-asian-celebrities/celebrity-lists?format=SLIDESHOW&page=8

list of 54:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jr-tungol/lgbt-asians_b_2026330.html

Ted Video:
George Takei, Why I love a country that once betrayed me

How do you meet more gay people?

So, you are single and you wish to meet more people just like you. Alright, so, how do you filter out all the straight people and just meet other eligible H6 bachelors and bachelorettes?

From what I've gathered, here are a couple places you can start with:

• Local coffee shops
• Music stores and bookstores (i.e. Eslite bookstore 成品書店, Barnes & Noble, ...)
• Join a local volunteer group you are passionate about (i.e. Habitat for Humanity, Tzu Chi, Red Cross, Animal Shelters, ... )
• Online meet-up groups
• I've heard many people try these online activity groups like hiking, climbing, bike-riding, etc.. Seems to be quite successful in meeting more friends at least.

If you want to try online dating, here are a couple sites to start you out with:

In Taiwan I just heard about this dating site called 2girl.net:

• 2girl.net
• unfortunately it is all in Chinese, so if you can't read/write, sorry.
• you can create a profile and categorize yourself very specifically:
• T (for tomboy)
• P (for 'po' or wife in mandarin)
• Neither but lean towards T
• Neither but lean towards P
• Bisexual
• Male Lesbian  <-- what does that even mean??
• Unsure
• Does not wish to disclose
• Still in closet
• Androgenous
• The interesting bit is you get 'points' for browsing and using the features on the site. For instance, if you join a chat group, you get x points and the more you accumulate, you can 'graduate' from a elementary to middle school level, and so on until doctorate or professor titles.
• OKcupid.com
• This dating site is global, not just in Taiwan. I think this has picked up traction in the states but not so much overseas yet. I could be wrong. It has been awhile since I've visited.
• Cool thing is you can also search "gay guys only" or "gay girls only" and choose not to be seen by non-gay people.
• Downelink.com
• This was what the kids used in college and I know at least two couples who met on DL. I prefer OKC though.

If you know of other popular dating websites, please go ahead and share them with other readers of gaysiansays. I'm sure it will be much appreciated since I am by no means a dating site expert. 

What do you use for online dating? Any advice on how to meet other H6 people?

Gaydar

What is gaydar? haha if you haven't heard of the term by now -- i'm sorry but you probably live under a rock, so check this out:

-H6s in range-

gay·dar
noun /ˈgāˌdär/
gaydars, plural

The putative ability of homosexuals to recognize one another intuitively or by means of very slight indications




A couple years ago a straight buddy of mine told me they actually sell 'gaydar' devices online -- some brilliant marketing person thought of an idea where people can buy a 'gaydar' keychain and if two of these devices come in close proximity to each other they'll notify the users that there's another supposedly "gay" person nearby:

Hmm...hahaha they do exist! What a way to be discreet in public huh?! I'm trying to imagine a society where the situation was reversed. Can you imagine if someone came up with a device called "straight-dar" so straight people can ID another straight person with such a silly device? "Oh no!...you're like, so totally...Straight!...what a waste!..." - boxer cover

Then there's the question: Ok, so how do I develop a more accurate gaydar?


Answer: practice practice practice! 


Explanation: As with most things in life, we must practice to hone our skills and through trial and error and developing superior observational and deductive skills... we will all have better functioning and useful internal 'gaydar' abilities without having to purchase keychain devices alerting us if another person of H6 origins is close by.

Comical gaydar image

How does one practice and hone their gaydar skills? How about people watching with a close group of friends or better yet, with someone you know who has excellent gaydar abilities. Once you get passed the obvious stereotypical indicators such as super flamboyant gay boys or super butch gay girls...it's the in-between "Bi" people that are usually the most challenging to identify. The ultimate test - if you're brave enough, go up and ask the person their sexuality. If you're really brave and find 'said target' attractive - try hitting on them and see what happens... what's the worse that can happen, they'll say no right? In that case you got nothing to lose! 




Good luck to all you H6s (and allies) and have fun practicing and developing superior gaydar skills :D