Resource for coming out to Asian Parents

I recommend getting the book, 親愛的爸媽, 我是同志 (Parents of Lesbians and Gays Talk About Their Experience). Unfortunately it is printed in Chinese, but it's great if you have Chinese parents or can read some Chinese yourself:

This book helped me a lot when I came out to my Chinese parents. Mind you, my Dad is one of the most traditional fathers there are when it comes to Chinese culture. My parents grew up in Taiwan, and I grew up in California. Although both my parents have been living in the U.S. for more than 25 years now, it's still difficult for them to accept that their own child is gay (Lesbian to be specific). 


Anyway, this book helped me a lot, maybe more than my parents. It just made me feel like I'm not alone. So many stories about how other people around the world are just like me, and faced with the exact same situation. I read about how parents react, and this is from every imaginable possibility. I read about how everyone has their own method and timing of coming out. So if you can read Chinese, get it. It helps! If anything, it just helps you feel like you are not alone :) and that's comforting.


I read this book before I came out and it gave me strength and encouragement that everyone can do it, and it's such a relief. Liberation. The weight of a mountain lifted off your shoulders. A secret you no longer have to bear. A lifelong burden.....gone. I wanted that relief. I wanted that liberation so bad that when the moment came, I did it. I just ... in that moment decided to come out to my parents. Had I not been introduced to this book, I don't know if I would have found the strength and courage to tell my parents who I truly was...because you know what, It's scary as hell to think that if your parents knew who you really were, that they wouldn't love you anymore. That you'd somehow let them down. A disappointment. An un-filial child. Worst of all, hearing the most feared words from your father or mother that ...

"You are not my child anymore." 

What could be more awful than that??


So.....You'll have to keep reading to find out about HOW and WHEN I made the decision to come out to my mother.