H6

THE kinsey scale. What is H6? Stands for "Hella Gay"
This my friends, is how you point out someone you see in public, but don't want to say the word "gay" out loud...so you just say:

"Hey guys..check it out..H6 H6 walking to your right" 

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Here's wikipedia's explanation of the kinsey scale, if you haven't already heard of it. I first learned about this in APIQ at school and found it was very interesting. There is where the term "sexuality is fluid" comes from:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

In case you were wondering...I would probably rate myself a H5 on the scale. Like I said, it fluctuates, but I'd say i'm a solid 5. I don't rule out the possibility of meeting a "guy" but I also know myself well enough to say that I am mostly attracted to girls. Always have been, and probably always will be. However, since love is love, who knows. Perhaps one day a dude will swoop me off my feet and I just can't say no. haha, we'll see.


My friend came up with this term and it has stuck. We like to keep it used within the community, but of course share this wonderful new vocabulary with your friends. It makes life easier when you go people watching or don't want to attract attention from eavesdroppers. 


Have fun!


p.s. Happy Birthday Brother!

THE SISTER

Sums up my relationship with my other sibling...THE SISTER

In case you were thinking...wow, it must be so easy for you and your family is so cool and accepting of the fact you're gay...not QUITE. I am introducing the other sibling today. The one that really makes my blood boil from sheer anger. The one I abhor. Yes, that's right, I said it...abhor.


You know those people that really rub you the wrong way. Not only that, they like to boss you around, think they're always right, and flat out make your life difficult as hell? Yea, that's my sister. Don't get me wrong, i'm sure deep deep deeeeeeeeeeeeep down I love her, but honestly, I can't stand her. Why? Let me tell you why.


#1 - Let's start with the fact that she turned christian and became super religious (by way of her ex-bf) and believes that I will be going to hell because I happen to like people of the same gender as me.
#2 - Who doesn't wish their brother or sister a happy life? Mine. 
#3 - Hypocrite. She makes flat out mean comments about me. Worst of all, sometimes in front of my parents so that they'll start agreeing and thinking like her. Ex: That being gay is a choice.
#4 - Bossy, Bitchy, Bratty <-- fact
#5 - Ugly on the inside. 

In Napa county wine tasting with Mom, brother and sister. Among many unpleasant events throughout the day, this one tops it off:

"Wow, it's so beautiful here and so peaceful. Isn't it nice Brother? *smug smile* One day, I'd like to get married in a place like this." 

Sister: [glares] "If you get married, it BETTER be to a man."

Me: [what i really want to say]: Bitch.

Hey, in all honestly, I don't tell people how to live their life right? You just have to me open-minded and accepting of all people, even the bitchy ones. So what I really did in this situation, I ignored her and didn't let her ruin all of our evenings by starting an argument in public. The lesson here is this:

If we want our future to be a better and more loving society of educated individuals, we have to be the change we want to see.

So, what the heck do you do when you have a sibling who is condescending, ignorant and completely against you being an LGBT person? Simple. Don't be THEM. In my case, I just throw back the argument:


 You know what Sister? I don't tell you how to live your life and who you should or should not love. I don't force you to date a woman, or TRY to date a woman just to see if you are NOT straight. I don't tell the parents that being straight is a CHOICE and you chose to live like that. I think the worst part of it is when the Sister started bashing on my Ex-Girlfriend because of her race. OH NO YOU DIDN'T! I know, I should have walked away, but I couldn't. There she is trying to tell my mom I shouldn't date someone because she had a bad college roommate fiasco (which by the way I think cuz her roommate started to crush on her) and turned into this whole big drama thing, and now she's trying sway my mother that everyone of that race is crazy. 


You da crazy one, bitch! If you want people to like you as a person, you better start treating other people with some respect and stop talking smack about people you don't know.

Love is Love

Proud Pescatarian

http://lolalollipop.com/2-cow-vs-pig-vs-shrimp/

Today, is day number 2. I have successfully completed my 2nd day of being an honest Pescatarian:

"one whose diet includes fish but no meat" (according to merriam-webster)

 Recently, I've been watching a lot of documentaries related to global warming, water wars and our ecological footprint on earth and it really got to me. Struck a chord, hit home, serious wake-up call. Therefore, I decided to start my pescatarian diet!!


You may be thinking..how does this relate to being gay? Well, I think it does. As a minority group, we want people to accept us and have a non-biased, non-prejudice attitude and opinion about our lifestyle right? I often feel it's the narrow-minded, hypocritical, uneducated and ignorant people who have the most prejudice against people who are not like them. Wouldn't it make sense to become the opposite of those people? 


So my logic goes like this:   As a triple minority (gay, woman, Chinese) I should strive to be the exact opposite of ignorant people by keeping an open-mind, educating myself on as much as possible and being a responsible citizen to my country and the planet i'm currently living on. If I strive to be the best that I can, then I'm setting a positive example for future generations and at the same time, giving people who ARE ignorant and prejudice against minorities LESS reason and ammo to build on their hate. This world has enough hatred to go around - we should try to have more good people spread more compassion everywhere - in all forms - to one another and to our environment.


Ok, enough of the preaching...the other reasons I feel are a plus to this pescatarian diet are:

1. Minimizing my ecological footprint from removing red meat from my diet. Specifically, all the truck carbon dioxide output, methane from cows, and packaging materials to transport meat is cut down.
2. Save a few animals' lives. 
3. Cheaper lifestyle = I save grocery $$ every week
4. Healthier diet for myself. Less fat and oil and bad cholesterol consumed in my own body
5. Makes me feel good :) I'm contributing to a greener planet and making a difference.

What do you think? Would you ever consider being a Pescatarian or Vegetarian?

Washington State allows gay marriage

quick update on top of all the news...

WASHINGTON state just passed a bill to allow gay marriage. It will be enacted in June 2012.

When I was 14...

I liked a girl for 3 yrs.
I thought I was the only gay asian person.
I didn't know anybody else that was Chinese AND gay.
I knew I could never tell her that I liked her...because she'd never return the feelings.


Freshman year. High School. Hormones. Teenage angst. It's a hard time to be a teenager, the first child in a demanding Chinese family with the pressure and expectation of attending top tier colleges, and maintain extraordinarily unique extra-curricular activities on your resume, AND just to keep it interesting...be gay too.


In junior high and parts of high school, the last thing you want to do is stand out. Everybody is so self-conscious about everything that it would be the death of a teenager if someone found out you were different. If a rumor about someone having an eating disorder could go on for weeks, what would they say if they found out somebody was gay, a lesbian, a bisexual?? Trans?? Terrifying!


These are all thoughts that I (probably) had running through my head. My memory can play tricks on me, but i'm sure this was around the ballpark of what I was thinking. You know, my deepest, darkest secret and fear has always been this: being different...NOT being the "perfect" daughter for my parents...NOT being able to be like everyone else....and NOT being able to share who you really have a crush on...and things like that. It's tough. Life is tough.


But just remember this:

"It gets better."                                              (Just like the 'it gets better' project)

Honestly, it does. When I was 14, I probably wouldn't have believed it, or ever thought I would ever one day come out to my parents, but I did. And you know what? It's not that bad. I know I am very lucky to have the parents that I do to accept who I am, but it also took some time. Definitely didn't happen overnight.

This post is for all those teenagers out there who feel like they're trapped in their world, in their life, in their current situation forever. And I hope this can find even just one teenager out there to give them hope that life does get better. Even though it may not seem like it right now, but trust me, people change, times change, and your life can change too. 


Don't give up hope. Hey, "where there's a will, there's a way." (Dang I'm using a lot of metaphors in this post) ...and keep on smiling. Life DOES gets better :)