THE SISTER

Sums up my relationship with my other sibling...THE SISTER

In case you were thinking...wow, it must be so easy for you and your family is so cool and accepting of the fact you're gay...not QUITE. I am introducing the other sibling today. The one that really makes my blood boil from sheer anger. The one I abhor. Yes, that's right, I said it...abhor.


You know those people that really rub you the wrong way. Not only that, they like to boss you around, think they're always right, and flat out make your life difficult as hell? Yea, that's my sister. Don't get me wrong, i'm sure deep deep deeeeeeeeeeeeep down I love her, but honestly, I can't stand her. Why? Let me tell you why.


#1 - Let's start with the fact that she turned christian and became super religious (by way of her ex-bf) and believes that I will be going to hell because I happen to like people of the same gender as me.
#2 - Who doesn't wish their brother or sister a happy life? Mine. 
#3 - Hypocrite. She makes flat out mean comments about me. Worst of all, sometimes in front of my parents so that they'll start agreeing and thinking like her. Ex: That being gay is a choice.
#4 - Bossy, Bitchy, Bratty <-- fact
#5 - Ugly on the inside. 

In Napa county wine tasting with Mom, brother and sister. Among many unpleasant events throughout the day, this one tops it off:

"Wow, it's so beautiful here and so peaceful. Isn't it nice Brother? *smug smile* One day, I'd like to get married in a place like this." 

Sister: [glares] "If you get married, it BETTER be to a man."

Me: [what i really want to say]: Bitch.

Hey, in all honestly, I don't tell people how to live their life right? You just have to me open-minded and accepting of all people, even the bitchy ones. So what I really did in this situation, I ignored her and didn't let her ruin all of our evenings by starting an argument in public. The lesson here is this:

If we want our future to be a better and more loving society of educated individuals, we have to be the change we want to see.

So, what the heck do you do when you have a sibling who is condescending, ignorant and completely against you being an LGBT person? Simple. Don't be THEM. In my case, I just throw back the argument:


 You know what Sister? I don't tell you how to live your life and who you should or should not love. I don't force you to date a woman, or TRY to date a woman just to see if you are NOT straight. I don't tell the parents that being straight is a CHOICE and you chose to live like that. I think the worst part of it is when the Sister started bashing on my Ex-Girlfriend because of her race. OH NO YOU DIDN'T! I know, I should have walked away, but I couldn't. There she is trying to tell my mom I shouldn't date someone because she had a bad college roommate fiasco (which by the way I think cuz her roommate started to crush on her) and turned into this whole big drama thing, and now she's trying sway my mother that everyone of that race is crazy. 


You da crazy one, bitch! If you want people to like you as a person, you better start treating other people with some respect and stop talking smack about people you don't know.

Love is Love