"You're a good catch! Don't try so hard to meet someone, let them come to you!"Hmmm, ok. Next thing you know, I attend my friends birthday party in San Francisco, and after a night of clubbing, I met someone. Or rather, someone found me!
The story is quite interesting really, because our huge 3 person birthday bash took up a good portion of the dance floor. So it's fair to say, any interested singles would have to be pretty brave to breach our massive group and approach one of us. OK, so my group of say 20 some friends, mostly Asians, are grabbing drinks and dancing it up in the middle of the club, and one of my buddies taps me on the shoulder. He's one of the bday boys, so he's already drunk, and he says to me:
"Dude, that girl over there is totally your type. And it looks like she's alone, you should totally go talk to her!"Being the sober designated driver, and not that desperate anymore, I say "Oh, she looks really cute but I'm not desperate." This is when another buddy walks over and says in my ear, "Hey, what's the deal here. You interested in her? Yea? OK, lemme handle this. I got you covered." And, the next thing I know, they're bringing this girl over to our group and introducing her to me. Mind you, I believe she already had a couple drinks. So we introduce each other, I find out she's a student here from Korea, studying engineering as a graduate student. *I perk up immediately* This girl is really smart, and really intelligent, and she's a foreigner. She's got my attention; i'm totally intrigued now. (Intelligence is one of the most attractive features to me) When I came back from buying a round of drinks with everyone, my buddy has been talking her up for like 10 minutes. So, I figure, oh maybe she's into the cute girl, eh ok, she can have her.
As I'm turning around to see how the conversation is going, the cute (and slightly drunk) girl has approached me. She's giving me the signal, this stare, like "I can't look away from you, deep in your eyes" stare, and she's walking closer and closer to me. The distance between us is getting smaller, and she just about takes me by surprise. YuP! She kissed me. I must admit, it had been awhile since I was in a relationship that I forgot what it felt like to kiss someone. It felt goood.
We ended up making out the whole night in the club, and that's how I met my girlfriend.
What my buddy was really doing while I went to buy a round of drinks was saying things like "Yea, my friend over there, she's totally into you. She thinks you're really cute! You're just her type. Are you here by yourself? What do you do? ......"
SO HERE'S MY ADVICE: If you ever meet a girl you want to get to know better, have one of your buddies be the cupid and start building up a great introduction about yourself and test out the waters for you. And if you're really bold and gutsy, go for the glory and go up and talk to the girl (or guy) yourself! What's the worse that can happen, she/he'll just say no. So if you don't ask, you'll already be getting a NO answer anyway, so just do it!
Oh yea, and in the end, taking my mother's advice was the best advice about dating I ever got. So here it is again: Don't go search and looking for someone or worse, "the one", but rather let them come to you. Sometimes it's when you least expect it that love finds its way to you. Who would've known?!
